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Paul and Paul

If you’ve been following this blog for a very long time you’ll recall that before it was, it was, and in those days it was a two-man affair, documenting my spectacular, somewhat notorious and ultimately doomed relationship with Paul de Koning.

Paul died five years ago today.

Paul was charming, sexy, loud, iconoclastic, funny and brimming with love and life. We shared a year and a half together from late ’95 to early ’97 – a wild, raucous and all-too-often insane ride. It ended horribly, but we patched our friendship up in time. He was diagnosed with Adult Myeloid Leukaemia in the late 1990s and managed to survive with that a lot longer than anyone thought possible.

The photo above was taken on our trip to San Francisco in September 1996 – sixteen years ago now. And here he is in his own words, a screenshot of his page from the House of Love, as it was in November 1996 (big file).

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Piggy Gets Perforated

Nathan got his nipples pierced yesterday. I documented the event for him on video. Enjoy!

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Ten years to the second since …

Ten years to the second since I met my husband. ♡♡♡

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Four years ago

25 September 2004, Radium Host Springs, British Columbia…


We two boys together clinging,
One the other never leaving,
Up and down the roads going—North and South excursions making,
Power enjoying—elbows stretching—fingers clutching,
Arm’d and fearless—eating, drinking, sleeping, loving,
No law less than ourselves owning—sailing, soldiering, thieving, threatening,
Misers, menials, priests alarming—air breathing, water drinking, on the turf or the sea-beach dancing,
Cities wrenching, ease scorning, statutes mocking, feebleness chasing,
Fulfilling our foray.

(from Leaves of Grass )

Another couple of pics below the fold…

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Congratulations California


Above: San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom officiates at the marriage of Del Martin, 87, and Phyllis Lyon, 83, who have been together 56 years but are legally married only today.

Some moments speak for themselves. Anything I could say in commentary would only be fluff. And anyway, I have tears in my eyes.

Photo: AFP

8 May

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Happy birthday to Jasper, who is seven years old today. That’s 50 in dog years — he is officially middle-aged.

In recognition of this important occasion, may I refer you to this post, from 6 July 2000, when eight-week-old Jasper first came into our lives. (WARNING: cute puppy pictures)

Special Offer: leave a “happy birthday Jasper” message in the comments before midnight tonight and I’ll give him a dog biscuit for you. (Or maybe a carrot or just a pat on the head if there are more than a couple of comments — don’t want him to turn into a weighty boy.)

Today is also Brent and my anniversary — we have been together eight years now. That’s 56 gay years, apparently.

Not sure I agree with the conversion factor but regardless, eight years is a pretty good effort. And I still love the pants off him, just like I always have.

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Free hugs

I’m not sure if it’s because it was shot in the nostalgic familiarity of Sydney, but I liked this a lot:

(Thanks, Fiona)

Homo weddings from Ottawa to Otago

In Canada, the Supreme Court has ruled that the federal government has the power to legalise gay marriage. Canadian PM says his government will bring in national equal marriage legislation next year. Screw you, Ralph Klein.

“Canada is a pluralistic society,” the court said. “Our constitution is a living tree which, by way of progressive interpretation, accommodates and addresses the realities of modern life.” (from the Guardian‘s coverage)

Meanwhile the New Zealand Parliament has passed the Civil Unions Bill, giving KiwiQueers equal rights to their straight cousins.

A frabjous day in the dominions.

Ten years on

Ten years and one day ago was the last time I spoke to Daren. Continue reading